So if you want to sit at home and knit a wardrobe for your cat , then by all means do so. When you start focusing on what you like to do, you'll get that sense of authenticity I was talking about earlier. Do you remember being younger and hating your freckles, or wishing desperately for smooth hair instead of your curly ringlets?
But then, as you got older, you realized that your freckles are adorable, and your hair is super awesome? It's good to embrace your so-called flaws , and the more you can do it the more you'll be comfortable with yourself. It's often easier said than done, but many people start to love their appearance as they get older.
I used to hate my pale skin, and spent countless hours baking in the sun. But now that I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm totally down to embrace my place skin and hopefully look like Nicole Kidman when I'm Everyone has something they don't like about themselves, but that "flaw" is often what makes them interesting, unique, and lovely.
For all my fellow loud laughers out there, you've probably been told to "shush" more than once in your lives. But when people tell you to stop doing something that comes naturally — like a loud laugh, a dark sense of humor, a quirky eccentricity — you start to feel embarrassed and apologetic for who you are. Don't let other people put you down for the things that make you unique.
If we all were the same, the world would be a pretty dull place. So laugh away. This step is huge, especially in this modern era of ours that never offers a moment's peace. Did people sit in a chair and stare at a wall? I don't even know. And that's why it's so darn difficult to be alone with yourself. Having something warm can help us to feel calm.
It can help us to relax. Pets can be soothing. Stroking, or playing with a pet, can help us to focus on something outside of ourselves and take us away from whatever is going on in our head. Stroking a pet, and feeling their warmth and the texture of their fur can help to lower our levels of anxiety. There are loads of phone apps specifically designed to help us with anxiety.
On top of apps specifically designed for mental health , there are lots of different games which can be engrossing, and we might find calming such as Flow Free or Paper. When our anxiety builds and builds, we sometimes just need to let it out, and crying can be a great way to do that.
But crying is a really natural thing to do. We all need a good cry every now and again — it can be incredibly cathartic. Please help us to help others and share this post, you never know who might need it.
Skin-picking , hair-pulling and other body-focused, repetitive behaviours can all be anxiety -related. When we are living with social anxiety , it makes socialising really difficult. We might find ourselves feeling very isolated and lonely. Loneliness is damaging to our overall health. Feeling connected and having a sense of belonging are needs we all have.
When we have social anxiety and feel lonely, the two can feel at odds with one another with conflicting needs and feelings. Often people will try to stay in touch with us, but we might push them away and stop going to social events until it can reach the point where we barely see anyone outside of our house. But no matter how much science is thrown in front of me, some days I won't ever know what's wrong and I give myself permission for that to be okay.
It's easy to assume that if we know WHY we feel a certain way that we are pretty much "there" in terms of solving it and "fixing" it. The truth is that rarely do responses from ourselves or others immediately fix a feeling.
Feelings have various lifespans. Most are fleeting, others drift in and away, and some last over a period of days if not more in underlying ways. Feelings have to feel. They have to be processed and felt both mentally and physically in the body in order to come and go.
I'm so guilty of this. When despair hits, it's like a magnet for more. We attract what feels safe, makes sense, seems normal. It's totally okay to have days or moments where you want to acknowledge all the bad things, but it can be hard to pull yourself back out if you stay down there for too long. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you need to feel. Let go of trying to analyze it and just be with it. Get physically comfy - put on something that makes your body feel at ease.
Learn to build self-compassion by speaking to yourself as you would a friend. Close your eyes and think of your favorite place. Ask a friend to remind you of something ridiculously funny. Drink extra water and visualize yourself flushing out negative feelings and energy you don't need - the water will help give you extra energy, too! Put on your headphones and listen to music that makes you feel good. Go for a walk in nature without your phone and soak in the atmosphere.
Revel in the joys of escapism. Give yourself permission to dive into your favorite shows on Netflix that make you smile. Ask for family or friends to help you out. If you have roommates or a partner, ask them if they can make you dinner or take care of something for you. Tell your coworkers you're feeling off and allow yourself to be vulnerable, chances are if you have a bomb work crew, that they will do something to make you feel better, even if it's just listening.
Make a list of any of the following things to give yourself a healthy distraction more on list-making here. Places you'd love to drive to if you had an entire day on the open road. Wrap yourself in a giant blanket and curl up under the covers in a dark room. Don't worry if it sounds melodramatic if it makes you feel comforted and safe, it's worth it!
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